Most sexual assaults of males are perpetrated by other males. However, male rape has nothing to do with the sexual orientation of either the victim or the offender. Rape is not an expression of sexuality; it is a crime that is motivated by a need to control, humiliate, and harm.
Sexual identity becomes an important issue for males after a sexual assault. A heterosexual survivor may believe the assault means he is gay because of the way his body reacted during the assault. It is important to remember that sexual response is automatic and not within your control – just because a man's body reacted sexually does not mean he enjoyed the abuse. A homosexual or bi-sexual man may feel that he is to blame for the assault because of his sexual orientation. This is not the case. No one asks to be raped!
Sexual assaults of men are frequently violent and involve weapons. Often, men reporting muggings or robberies have also been sexually assaulted. Emergency room doctors and police, however, do not typically look for physical signs or evidence of sexual assault in men.
Male survivors may experience fear and anger over the loss of control over their bodies and themselves. This is especially difficult if you have been raised to believe that showing emotion is wrong or weak. You may also feel dirty, ashamed, and guilty that you weren't "strong enough" to protect yourself. But remember: rape is NEVER the victim's fault.
Check the information on other pages in this website for more facts about sexual assault, and how to seek help.